September: buttoning up for autumn end reader tips to transition smoothly from summer to fall.

Life is a series of transitions. This month we can talk about transitioning from summer to autumn. In this way, you can learn the steps for processing change of any type. Sometimes summer can seem to end too soon. Trips not taken, sprinklers not run through, flowers not planted. Other times, the joyful anticipation of fall can make you feel like you are on top of the world: dreams of the future, of recognition for accomplishments not yet completed, and who among us can deny the joy of slipping into a favorite winter coat, or seeing the first leaves begin to turn?

Transition is inevitable. In the finish, we can choose to remain backward facing, or we can look forward. Change can feel scary, and in the end, we cannot control others. We cannot control any people, places or things. We can control ourselves, and how we experience the world. We can adjust our expectations. We can choose to experience all transitions as a new beginning.

Is it ok to feel sad? ABSOLUTELY. In fact, it can be okay to honor the past, remembering joyful moments, and honoring the people who made those moments great. It can also be okay to learn from past mistakes. 

We are all forever becoming new iterations of ourselves. We do so through storytelling. In fact, narrative therapy is the act of being mindful of the words we use to retell our life story. Narrative therapy is being mindful of self-empowerment. Narrative therapy is separating the person and the problem. You are not your problems. Often, you are not even responsible for your problems: sexism, ageism, racism. It is not your fault. 

Does that mean we never need to take responsibility? It does not. But, as you gear up for the hard work of autumn, please be gentle with yourself. Learning takes place best when a person feels calm and open. September can be a transition to turning over a new leaf. It can be the chance to retell your life story with YOU as the star. It can be the chance to forgive others for past wrongs. 

Most importantly, a transitional time can be the moment where you forgive YOU. You are already doing a good job. 

You don’t have to do it alone. I am a licensed clinician. Contact me for a free 30 minute consultation. It does not have to stay this way. You deserve to feel heard. You deserve to feel happy. You deserve to feel safe. www.therapyfellows.com choose Individual and Family Therapy and use password Picture1925